When was the last time you forgave yourself? This is one of the questions we have been asking students recently as we continue to explore the Value of Courage. The courage to forgive others and also ourselves requires self-control, inner strength and understanding of what is right. It is this concept within Courage that promotes a growth mind set, resilience and a willingness to learn from our errors.
Forgiving is not the same as forgetting, in fact, for it to be useful, it is more closely aligned to remembering. It does not mean that you are saying what happened was okay, it does mean that you have let go of the anger or guilt towards someone, or towards yourself.
As we go through life mistakes will be made. We shouldn t spend our time in regret, thinking of what could have been. Instead the focus needs to be on the present and ensuring that we have learnt from past mistakes, that they are not repeated and better decisions are made. This is what learning is all about, the confidence to take risks, have slip-ups, learn from them, forgive yourself and move on.